We hear it all the time, “be mindful when it comes to your words”, but do we realize just how powerful our words are? I’m sure this has happened to you before; you bought a new car and now that’s all you see. It’s like everyone went out and bought the same car as you. But in all actuality, our minds are now focused on that car because it is something we own, see, think about often. We are aware of its presence so now we see it everywhere. The same goes for your words. If you speak positivity over your life, then positive things will come. Speak negatively and everything that could go wrong will.
Sometimes we don’t even realize the things we’re speaking over ourselves. “I can’t…”, “Nothing will ever change because of…”. When we focus on the negative that is all we will see. You begin to ignore the good that has occurred which blocks your blessings in the long run. We need to get into the habit of turning a negative moment into a positive one. Instead of being annoyed about traffic try to flip it into a positive; “at least now I have a few more moments to myself to enjoy this new album, listen to a podcast, sit in silence and relax, etc.” Some things are completely out of our control (like traffic) and instead of getting upset about it we should create a sense of peace out of the moment.
Stop dwelling in the negative. Think of your mind as Instagram. Instagram is based off an algorithm. It picks up on the posts you like/search and starts showing you similar posts. Your mind is the same way. When you think and speak of certain things, your brain picks up on those patterns and you begin to see/experience situations that correlate to your current mind frame. So, do you see how important it is to think and speak positively over yourself? Don’t get stuck with a negative news feed scrolling through your mind. Let’s all do a clean sweep and remove the negative and replace it with a positive. Yes, yes, yes…I know, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Well, here’s a few tips on how to turn a negative into a positive.
1. Laugh it off. There’s humor in just about everything. Upset because you spilled your coffee? Laugh it off and chalk it up to you being clumsy and trying to rush throughout your day. Clearly the universe was trying to tell you to slow down.
2. Smile b!tch! You may have to force it but try to smile through it. Look in the mirror (or your cell camera) and smile at yourself. You’ll thank me later when you have less frown lines.
3. Open your eyes. Take in your surroundings. Realize that things could honestly be way worse than they are. Sometimes we let the little things get us riled up. Dismiss that anger.
4. It’s only a small part of your day. Remember, if it won’t matter in 5 days/months/years, don’t spend more than five minutes being upset by it.
5. Read some memes. Memes brighten up my day. The cornier, the better! When I’m in a meh mood I turn to memes. The innanet never fails me when it comes to making me laugh.
Disclaimer: These are only suggestions. I can’t guarantee that what works for me will work for you but I do hope that it helps in some way.
“Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” – Yehuda Berg